Nuggets for Living
Egotism is a unique condition where an individual feels good about themselves while making those around them feel uncomfortable. But what exactly is egotism? According to the dictionary, egotism refers to an excessive and often objectionable focus on oneself in conversation or writing. This can manifest as conceit or boastfulness. Related traits include self-centeredness and selfishness.
Let’s be honest: we have all encountered some degree of egotism at one point or another. For example, when looking at group photographs, most of us tend to search for ourselves first. Looking at a group photograph first for yourself is a mild form of egotism. However, in the age of social media, our egotism can become more pronounced in how we post or present ourselves online. Ask yourself this: “Why am I posting this about myself?” Is it a hobby, a pastime, or simply a habit? You might think, “Well, everyone else is posting online, so why shouldn’t I?”
While there is nothing wrong with sharing on social media to inform, educate, encourage, or to pass the time, we often post to satisfy our own egotism. We all want to present ourselves well and look our best online, and our self-esteem can take a hit when we feel we don’t measure up to others. Studies have shown that people who spend significant time on social media tend to experience higher rates of depression, mainly because of this egotistical mindset.
There is a fine line between egotism and self-confidence. Egotism tends to repel people, while self-confidence attracts them. We generally prefer to avoid those who constantly brag about themselves at others’ expense. Egotistical individuals often struggle to listen; they tend to dominate conversations and belittle those around them, often without even realizing it. Such behavior can be alienating. In contrast, stable and secure people exude self-confidence, inspiring us to excel and improve, making us want to be around them.
The phrase “egotism is a disease” cannot be overstated; it can destroy relationships and lead to conflict. As Fulton J. Sheen aptly noted, “Wars come from egotism and selfishness. Every macrocosmic or world war has its origin in microcosmic wars going on inside millions and millions of individuals.” This statement encapsulates what I call “Egotism Overboard.””
So how can we overcome egotism in our lives? The Bible offers guidance: “Not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:4). Jesus Christ emphasized that “the greatest commandment is to love God and your neighbor as yourself.” If we all learn to love others as ourselves and take an interest in their well-being, we can keep egotism at bay. Additionally, using phrases like “we,” “us,” and “ourselves” rather than “I,” “me,” and “myself” in our daily conversations can also be beneficial. Lastly, being open to constructive criticism can help temper our egotism.
IIn closing, as John L. Mason humorously observed, “You can recognize a self-made man: his head is oversized, and his arms are long enough to pat himself on the back.” That is egotism at its peak!
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